Throughout my life, many people have told me that I have a knack for reading people. And I've been told that the reason why I'm good at reading people is because I understand human behavior.
Now, while I might understand human behavior, I don't believe that this is the reason for why I'm good at reading people. I believe the reason for why I'm good at reading people is because I understand language.
Let me give you an example.
Person A says: "I don't have the money."
While Person B says: "I don't have the money yet."
There is a huge difference between what Person A is saying and what Person B is saying. Person A, by saying "I don't have the money," has closed themselves off from receiving the money, while Person B, by saying "I don't have the money yet," is saying that they don't have the money at this moment but is still open to receiving the money with the word "yet." The word "yet" puts a stamp on the current moment and allows for future possibilities. And so, one word makes a huge difference.
But why is this important?
Because what people say is an indicator as to how they think. If someone is complaining, they're probably thinking about all of the problems that they're facing. Whereas, if someone is sharing the things they're grateful for, then they're probably thinking about all of the positive things that are happening in their lives.
And as it says in the Bible:
"For as he thinketh in his heart, so is he" - Proverbs 23:7
And one of the phrases that I hear many people refer to, whether they're consciously or unconsciously aware of this, is that they "need" something.
And for most people, without even realizing it, this can be quite detrimental because to say that you "need" something suggests that you lack something, that you're incomplete and that you won't be complete and won't feel fulfilled unless you have this thing that you believe you need.
They are devaluing themselves into this thing they believe they need, whether that be another person, or a job, or money, or the latest shiny object. And it's because of this one word, this one thought that people can be lead to feel insignificant and depressed.
So, what can one do about this?
I believe the best thing to do is to really break down for yourself the next idea that I'd like to present to you. And that idea is:
You are complete.
You are already complete. And you didn't have to do anything to be complete. You are just complete.
Think of it like this.
If you didn't have your eyes, would there be light?
If you didn't have your ears, would there be sound?
If you didn't have your tongue, would there be flavors?
If you didn't have your nose, would there be scents?
If you didn't have your skin, would you be able to touch surfaces?
Would you be able to experience life if you weren't aware of it?
No, because you evoke life. And the only way that can be the case is if you are this totality that we call life. Hence, you are complete.
And when you really understand this, when you really break this down for yourself, when you question it over and over and over again and really understand this idea, then something amazing happens.
What happens is that instead of believing that you need something in order to be complete, instead of devaluing yourself into this other thing and feeling insignificant and miserable because of it, you'll be complete and just have fun. You'll just enjoy life.
I mean, if you realize that you're complete, then what do you need...? Nothing. You're complete. Why would you need anything?
Now, that doesn't mean that you won't strive for a dream. It just means that you won't devalue yourself into that dream that you believe that you need to live in order to be fulfilled. Instead, you'll be fulfilled and grow towards that dream.
And so, once you really understand this, once you really break this down for yourself and question this idea until you feel it, then you'll understand that life is play. Lila, as the Hindus express it.
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